Welcome to CARE OF AGING PARENTS. I understand that your initial interest in this website may be limited to only a few pages of information pertinent to the current needs of a parent(s). However, the subject matter on each page relates in some way to the content of all the pages. I, therefore, highly recommend that you read all the information on the website in order to gain the most comprehensive understanding of the issues your aging parent(s) are facing now or in the future and how you can best assist them in maintaining their ability to live independently as long as possible.
INTERNATIONAL VIEWERS To our growing number of viewers from other countries, I welcome you and say confidently that regardless of your religious beliefs or the cultural norms practised in your home-country, this information should be appropriate and useful as you seek to "Honor your father and mother."
When there are so many websites on aging parents, why one more?
A son's challenge:
While visiting with our younger son one evening, he asked me, "Dad, what are you doing since your retirement with the knowledge and experience you have gained over the years as a minister and an institutional chaplain?" Regretably, I had to answer, "Nothing." Upon retirement I had metaphorically buried my "talent." My son encouraged me to create a website domain where adult children could quickly view practical and, hopefully, insightful information on how to best assist their elderly parents in the aging process. Lacking my son's urging this material would probably never have been made available on the internet.
A father's response with his chaplain's perspective:
These pages are a response to my son's challenge and what I, at the time, perceived to be a providential prompting. I bring a different perspective to what others have written on the subject of issues relevant to the care of aging parents. The few places I become clinical is to clarify the condition of the parent/patient. I have attempted to be clear, cogent, and concise in my thoughts, conclusions, and compelling in my recommendations. The information on these pages is only a primer on the subjects covered. Possibly in the future I may attempt a more comprehensive treatment on this vast fast growing field of "parental care."
A Mission statement:
CAREOFAGINGPARENTS.COM content is published with the hope and prayer of being useful to a wide audience, especially the 76 million "Baby Boomers" generation born between 1946-1964, many of whose parents are beginning to need some assistance. The website is designed to provide the information adult children need to successfully assist their parents, when they can no longer live totally independent.
A few cartoons and other images
Where and when appropriate, some pictures and cartoons appear on the website that represent the material in that immediate section. The cartoons are not intended in any way to trivialize the seriousness of the content, but to call rapt attention to the subject matter at hand.
The Biblical teaching supporting the care of your parents:
The information on this website reflects both my being a Christian and the Biblical view point on adult children's responsibility to their elderly parents.
The fifth of the ten commandments:
Exodus 20:12; Deut. 5:16; Ephesians 6:2.
"Honour your father and your mother;" that your days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God gives you." Exodus 20: 12
God, through Moses, in Deut. 5: 16 repeats and expands on this commandment. "Honour your father and your mother, as the LORD your God hath commanded you; that your days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with you, in the land which the LORD your God giveth you." This fifth commandment is the only one of the ten to be repeated verbatim in the New Testament (see Ephesians 6:2). Therefore, it is emphatically clear that this commandment is obligatory upon all who believe in the Divine authority of the Bible.
This command applies first to the Israelites who would possess their land indefinitely and that the quality of their life in the land would be blessed by God as they lived in obedience to Him. Secondly, I believe this command would also apply to all adult children, and when obeyed, could give them length of days (a long life), and a quality of life they might otherwise not enjoy. Tthe quality and longevity of ones life are clearly coupled together in this only commandment of the ten with a promise.
God's posted orders set in stone. 4 of the Ten Commandments define our duty and conduct before God and 6 define our duty and conduct toward our fellow Man.
The Jewish people and culture of the day when the commandments were was first given understood this 5th command to include taking care of one's father and mother in their old age. Whether Jew or Gentile, failure to care for one's parent(s) brings a scathing indictment in the New Testament, according to 1 Timothy 5:8. "But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his own household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel." Oh, my !! Who wouldn't want to avoid this characterization?